“We have lost touch with the most sexy character trait of our male counterparts…”
In life, there will be trials and tribulations. There will be times of pain and sorrow. What we do in these moments define who we are. Even more important is who we choose to face them with. Wouldn’t you want to be with someone who is much more equipped to lead during these difficult times? In a society where so much emphasis is put on physical appearances and bank accounts, we have lost touch with the most sexy character trait of our male counterparts, leadership.
A common challenge I see in single women of today is that we have lost sight of what a man’s primary responsibility should be in our lives. We’ve become so consumed with what he can offer in terms of materialistic wants. We choose men who fall short in this area then complain when “something is missing.” That something is what God intended for us, ladies… a Godly warrior with a gentle, loving hand who protects and leads us.
“Can I trust that this man is equipped to go to war when life brings its battles?”
When I was younger, I thought, many of my friends had it all… the husband, the job, the nice homes, and cars. I was envious. I wanted these things for my life, as well. I, like most women, searched relentlessly for the american dream! My laundry list of desires clouded my judgment when looking for a suitable life partner. He had to have a good job. He had to be financially secure….he had… he had… he had. When I finally met someone who “had,” it was the most unfulfilling, empty relationship I had ever experienced. Something was missing. I began to imagine how life would be if he was all I had to depend on when the world came crashing down… because in reality, it will. Life will throw curve balls that mess up all of our plans and I wanted to make sure I had the right players on my team. I began asking myself, “Can I trust that this man is equipped to go to war when life brings its battles?” The answer was, no. I couldnt. So, I did what most women should do when they come to such a daunting realization like this, I left.
“He feeds himself spiritually, physically, emotionally and mentally to be the best man he can possibly be in every masculine role he is placed in.”
After spending so much time in an unsettling relationship, my desires have drastically shifted. It may have been a hard lesson to learn, but I, at least, now know what I value most in a significant other. Over the last few months, I have spent a lot of time evaluating what I need to be most aware of to recognize Godly leadership qualities in a man. I am so fortunate to say that I now have someone in my life who exhibits these valuable qualities. I’ve come to admire him for his incredible leadership skills. I appreciate how strategic he is when he talks about leading his team at work. He is a problem solver. I adore the way he zones in on projects to find the best solutions. He is an incredible storyteller, so when he is leading, he does so by focusing on the value of information he shares. I have listened to how he gently teaches and guides in the most supportive manner. He has a way of making people feel like they have the skills to achieve anything they want. I noticed lately that he spends time reading God’s word for direction. He feeds himself spiritually, physically, emotionally and mentally to be the best man he can possibly be in every masculine role he is placed in. I can honestly say that he has been the perfect example of what a true leader should look like.
“Will he lean on God for guidance to be the man you deserve in times of need?”
My point is that I’m sure it seems as though life would be a dream come true if you could meet the perfectly chiseled attorney who buys you a Tesla, mansion with a pool, a nanny who cooks and cleans to allow you the freedom to meet the ladies for Thursday morning brunch and a round of tennis… but in reality, is that all you will need when the sky gets dark? If, God forbid, unfortunate death or sickness sneaks into your lavish lifestyle, does he have what it takes to take you through the valley? Will he lean on God for guidance to be the man you deserve in times of need? If so, consider yourself one lucky little lady. I know I, for one, want to put a man’s ability to lead me first and foremost for my future. If he knows how to be a leader, he will know how to anticipate the needs of his household.
Ladies, do yourselves a favor and ask God for guidance in helping you choose a leader, not someone who simply provides. A fearless leader who follows Gods direction for his family will ultimately guide us to the hands of the ultimate provider, Our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.
Sweet child, be free.